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So I was officially diagnosed about 2 days with HSV 2 after having painful sores down there and burning while peeing and also flu like symptoms. Prior to sores appearing, I did have some symptoms in a 2 week period that I ignored and attributed to a UTI. Looking back , it could of been prodrome symptoms. Sex was painful and there was some itching and irritation down there. I believe my bf gave this to me, I have not been sexually active or intimate with anybody other than him for nearly a year. He has no symptoms what so ever (so he claims) and never has. He did admit to stepping out on me but he swears he wore a condom. After doing so much research this past week, I have learned condoms don’t nessecarily protect you from getting it . He’s kind of being a bit ignorant about the situation and reacted like a guilty person but nonetheless he still offered support at first. He went to go get tested yesterday but isn’t responding to my texts smh I feel more alone than ever . I’m still in shock and denial. I still care about him so much and I hate myself for it. I know there’s a chance it’s not his fault and a small chance he might not have it  but still the timing of it all is questionable. I haven’t had sex with anybody else in sooo long. Why now? I feel like he is mad at me or still processing everything. I just want him to talk to me and tell me how he’s feeling but I don’t want to push him away. In the long run I know we can work through this but I fear if we stay together we will grow to resent each other or feel obligated to stay together because of our status. That’s not the kind of love I want to have but I also fear being alone and nobody wanting me because of this 

 

 

 

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Dont worry everthing is gonna be alright by time.. 

Do u bf get tested? 

If ur bf dont have it,maybe u already have it but the virus still sleep... The virus can sleep for years till it outbreak. 

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8 minutes ago, Humanandthething said:

Dont worry everthing is gonna be alright by time.. 

Do u bf get tested? 

If ur bf dont have it,maybe u already have it but the virus still sleep... The virus can sleep for years till it outbreak. 

Hello and thank you for your reply. I’ve never had any symptoms in the past and I believe what I am experiencing is my first OB, it was very severe and painful. I know that herpes can lay dormant in the body for years but the timing of it just seems too coincidental...like why now? As I mentioned I’ve been sexually active with the same person for a year (unprotected sex) and he has admitted to cheating. Anyway he got tested yesterday but isn’t responding to my texts so yeah . I’m having a hard time dealing with that 

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12 minutes ago, feelingalone212 said:

Hello and thank you for your reply. I’ve never had any symptoms in the past and I believe what I am experiencing is my first OB, it was very severe and painful. I know that herpes can lay dormant in the body for years but the timing of it just seems too coincidental...like why now? As I mentioned I’ve been sexually active with the same person for a year (unprotected sex) and he has admitted to cheating. Anyway he got tested yesterday but isn’t responding to my texts so yeah . I’m having a hard time dealing with that 

 

I acquired HSV 2 despite condom use : ( 

 

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Hey @feelingalone212 note that the lying dormant does not really apply to the first outbreak that is typically somewhat severe for many. It happens because your body has no immune system response to fight it off.

Hence it is almost certain you were recently infected.

Was it a swab test? Was it a culture?

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4 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Hey @feelingalone212 note that the lying dormant does not really apply to the first outbreak that is typically somewhat severe for many. It happens because your body has no immune system response to fight it off.

Hence it is almost certain you were recently infected.

Was it a swab test? Was it a culture?

Hello thank you for responding. I got a swap test done during the height of my symptoms. Two-3 days later the results came back as negative for HSV 1 and positive for HSV 2. This was about 5+ days ago. I am on anti virals and my sores and symptoms are now nearly gone . I just have some mild itching down there. They also took blood and I thought they were going to do a IGG test but they told me they did not test for that. So I have to go back to the doctor and get a IGG test. Again I’ve NEVER had any symptoms in the past, never had as much as a yeast infection before! I’ve had common colds and stuff in the past  and have suffered from strep throat since a child but even that was a once in a blue thing . I NEVER have had any pain or bumps or discomfort down there. I am 27 years old mind you !! This is my first time experiencing something like this. Deep down I know in my heart this is my first OB

Been dealing with the same guy for nearly a year unprotected sex. He admitted to cheating but did not say when he cheated . This summer I went on vacation for 2 weeks and we didn’t have sex for 15 days!! That was mid August. When I came back from vacay we had sex and lots of it and ROUGH sex. Afterwards I was in sooo much pain but thought nothing of it. When we went for another round in the morning I had so much irritation down there. Fast forward another week , I had some itching and discomfort down there. I thought it was a UTI. Next day the sores started to appear 

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38 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Hey @feelingalone212 that is all conclusive. This guy has HSV-2 and I suggest has had it well before he met you and more than likely knows this.

As much as I would like to sit here and make him the villain, I would like to believe that he’s not the type of person that would knowingly put me at risk. I do believe that during one of his cheating excursions he could’ve caught it. Although I do believe that he’s the one I gave it to me, I think maybe he really didn’t know he had it. Maybe that’s just me being an idiot. Anyway I think I just need to move on with my life and deal with this mental strain that I feel and all the regret I feel. I feel very depressed, I keep waking up with hot sweats and I’m dreaming about it and I just keep checking these message boards hoping to find answers. But the truth is this is my new reality, doesn’t really matter who gave it to me at this point. I’m stuck with this for life 

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We all understand how you feel.  It does get better.  There is alot of good information here, so read through the old posts.  Hope things work out for you.  The fact that he is withdrawing makes me wonder, hopefully he is processing the situation.  Do what is truly best for you!

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1 hour ago, Tulip79 said:

We all understand how you feel.  It does get better.  There is alot of good information here, so read through the old posts.  Hope things work out for you.  The fact that he is withdrawing makes me wonder, hopefully he is processing the situation.  Do what is truly best for you!

Thank you so much! That means a lot to hear. Truthfully I been drowning myself in information, I don’t know if it’s making me feel better or not. There’s a lot of conflicting information out there and it’s all very confusing. Do you know of any message boards to make friends (not dating) I really would like someone to talk my feelings out with 

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12 hours ago, Tulip79 said:

Someone on here has pointed some people to a secret Facebook page, that people can join.  I will see if I can find it.  This site is nice but it is not very interactive.

Thank you so much!!!

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23 hours ago, feelingalone212 said:

Hello and thank you for your reply. I’ve never had any symptoms in the past and I believe what I am experiencing is my first OB, it was very severe and painful. I know that herpes can lay dormant in the body for years but the timing of it just seems too coincidental...like why now? As I mentioned I’ve been sexually active with the same person for a year (unprotected sex) and he has admitted to cheating. Anyway he got tested yesterday but isn’t responding to my texts so yeah . I’m having a hard time dealing with that 

By the time.. Everything is gonna be alright.. Just dont try to believe who selling cure.. Theres is no cure. Only AV or supplement. Now the only thing u must do is accept who u are. U are still the same like before u got herpes. 

U are still human.. I know many people with herpes whos got married and love / sex will fine. 

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Hey guys , posting in here again because I have some questions. So I had one day of relief after my OB started to subside. All my sores went away, it no longer hurt to pee and although I had some itching it was bearable. I’m back at work today and the itching is soo unbearable. Yesterday I took like 3 showers just so I could have some relief and I washed down there with some antibacterial scentless soap. Well I think I may have scrubbed too hard or irritated something because I had to pee while I was in the shower and maybe it was the way I was standing (legs slightly closed and not wide open) but it started to burn when I peed. Omg I just about lost my mind.. But this morning when I peed there was no burning , just this horrible itching. Maybe it’s all in my head but it feels like my whole body has the itches. Also I noticed one of my sores that had been healing looked slightly inflamed, I took a photo of it and it did look worrying. I literally only have one antiviral pill left, as I mentioned before my insurance goes into affect October. Even if I get over to a free clinic, I will have to pay for the prescription out of pocket. I’m trying not to stress out but I am stressed!!

 

i found this website called HelloWisp that gives prescriptions for valacyclovir and acyclovir without the doctor visits but I’m skeptical about it, anybody used this site before? 

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