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Do I have genital herpes? Should I get tested?


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Photo taken last night:


Photo taken today:


Note: the spot in the lower-right corner only started to grow last night, about 3 days or so after the initial growth, and formed more fully today.

Another note - I plucked out some hairs that were in the growth with a tweezer, which perhaps was not a good idea. But I did that. And the plucked hairs do impact its appearance to some extent.


Things that make me think it might be herpes:

- the way it looks, I guess?

- I felt an itching coming before the first appearance of the growth.

- the growth is somewhat wet, although I don't know if this is herpes "fluid" or some pus that could be associated with in-grown hairs.

- I have been sexually active to some degree. (Just a few people, always with a condom for both oral and vaginal sex)


Things that make me think it might not be herpes:

- The first growth didn't appear until about 17-18 days after my last sexual encounter (most of the things I read estimated that the average time for genital herpes to appear, if it's a first appearance, is 2-12 days (with the average being 4 days).

- Although there was itching before the initial growth, there was absolutely no pain associated with the growth since it first came on a few days ago.

-The primary growth also only took a day or two to begin the healing / scabbing process.

- I shave my pubic hair on a regular basis. It hasn't happened for a little while, but in the past I've suffered from some in-grown hairs as a result. One in a rare blue moon, I'm prone to getting some random pimples on some parts of my body too, even though I'm 31.


So... do you think it's herpes? Should I get tested?

Thanks for any input


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13 minutes ago, Answersplease55 said:

How quickly was the progression from seeing a small mark to the stages in the pictures? 

About 2 or 3 days, I think? 4 at most.

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2 minutes ago, justcheckingin said:

About 2 or 3 days, I think? 4 at most.

Can you describe the small mark please? Was it more akin to a pimple or just similar to a tiny skin blemish that's the size of a pin prick? Currently going through a herpes scare myself 


Not an expert myself but fwiw, get it swabved ASAP. Looks suspicious but if you've been scratching at it you could have torn the skin apart. 

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8 minutes ago, Answersplease55 said:

Can you describe the small mark please? Was it more akin to a pimple or just similar to a tiny skin blemish that's the size of a pin prick? Currently going through a herpes scare myself 

It’s hard for me to really give an accurate physical description with words. It was like a growth that was reddish in color and maybe had tiny white-ish bumps on the exterior. But it was 100% painless (aside from the brief itching that appeared before the growth appeared) and it only took a couple of days to start healing up (or it appears to me to be healing up?)

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