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Anyone else feeling hopeless? November marks a year since my diagnosis and I’m realizing how much I’ve changed. Im so angry, im only in my 20s and I feel like a part of my life has been taken out of my control. I’m having a hard time trusting people. I have such a heavy heart. Ya did I mention I’m angry? I just... want to fade away. 

But I try to put on a brave face but the anger and pain is bleeding through. I’m lost and no longer see a future with anyone. I just see more loneliness ahead. 

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8 hours ago, Nicki0605 said:

Anyone else feeling hopeless? November marks a year since my diagnosis and I’m realizing how much I’ve changed. Im so angry, im only in my 20s and I feel like a part of my life has been taken out of my control. I’m having a hard time trusting people. I have such a heavy heart. Ya did I mention I’m angry? I just... want to fade away. 

But I try to put on a brave face but the anger and pain is bleeding through. I’m lost and no longer see a future with anyone. I just see more loneliness ahead. 

I feel you and it's hard. Hope you'll find a purpose to move on again someday.

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17 hours ago, Chicagonow said:

stop it. it's a rash 

Well thanks. Hope that helped you as much as you think that helped me. 🙄 

obviously it’s just a rash to you. You don’t know me and why it has effected me the way that it does. So if you can’t relate then move on to the next post. Don’t waste yours or my time. 

 

Sincerely, 

the one who won’t stop. 

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13 hours ago, MiLoBeng said:

I feel you and it's hard. Hope you'll find a purpose to move on again someday.

Thank you. I’m stuck but I know I’ll get past it. I’ve been in better spirits I’m just at my low right now. But I’ll get out of it. Thought I could use this platform to vent but clearly we have people on here that seem more angry and hurt than me 🤣💁🏾‍♀️

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18 hours ago, Chicagonow said:

stop it. it's a rash 

I hate when people refer to herpes as a ‘rash’ I’ve never had a ‘rash’, I’ve had PAINFUL sores that prevented me from peeing and I was in excruciating pain to the point where I couldn’t even walk or stand. I missed a week of work. I was living a real life nightmare and extremely depressed. I understand that some people experience no symptoms or very mild outbreaks , but don’t show lack of empathy for those whole actually experience horrible outbreaks. This is a message board to help and support one another 

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On 9/20/2019 at 3:03 AM, T9000 said:

I feel you. I have anger issues too now. I'm also a woman in my 20s.

Yes. The anger, man! I can’t trust anyone! And being in your 20s is so hard because no one our age has the mature mentality to be able to understand but... what can you do right? 

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I've heard New York has a lot of Herpsters compared with other places in the world. 

So that is at least a good start. I feel that anger part though. It's a lot easier to get frustrated with ignorant people when you're constantly bothered by your own skin. 

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In my case I don’t have anger issues but I’m kind of like dead cus whatever frustrating thing happen (like missing a bus, losing some belongings, etc), which I used to have a lot of reactions to, doesn’t really frustrate me anymore cus I feel like nothing sucks more than my diagnosis 

 

(I’m in a newly diagnosed and I’m in a lot of physical pain right now) 

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1 hour ago, heididehk said:

In my case I don’t have anger issues but I’m kind of like dead cus whatever frustrating thing happen (like missing a bus, losing some belongings, etc), which I used to have a lot of reactions to, doesn’t really frustrate me anymore cus I feel like nothing sucks more than my diagnosis 

 

(I’m in a newly diagnosed and I’m in a lot of physical pain right now) 

The OB will be lesser as time goes on. Just rmrbr to eat clean, avoid stress and stay away from food trigger. Good luck 

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3 hours ago, MiLoBeng said:

The OB will be lesser as time goes on. Just rmrbr to eat clean, avoid stress and stay away from food trigger. Good luck 

Thank you MiLoBeng 😭😭😭 these days ice pack is my friend 

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11 hours ago, heididehk said:

In my case I don’t have anger issues but I’m kind of like dead cus whatever frustrating thing happen (like missing a bus, losing some belongings, etc), which I used to have a lot of reactions to, doesn’t really frustrate me anymore cus I feel like nothing sucks more than my diagnosis 

 

(I’m in a newly diagnosed and I’m in a lot of physical pain right now) 

Yeah it really does change your perspective on things

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On 9/19/2019 at 7:01 AM, Nicki0605 said:

Anyone else feeling hopeless? November marks a year since my diagnosis and I’m realizing how much I’ve changed. Im so angry, im only in my 20s and I feel like a part of my life has been taken out of my control. I’m having a hard time trusting people. I have such a heavy heart. Ya did I mention I’m angry? I just... want to fade away. 

But I try to put on a brave face but the anger and pain is bleeding through. I’m lost and no longer see a future with anyone. I just see more loneliness ahead. 

Listen, do yourself a favour, Google famous people with HSV. I was honestly surprised. Seriously, it seems like half the Hollywood is carrying this torch as well. Brad Pitt has it apparently. I Brad Pitt were to approach you tomorrow and ask you if you would want to make it work cause you both already have it would you say no? You'll find someone I am absolutely positive about that. And it will get better. We've sent men into space and elected Donald Trump, surely we can beat a lousy virus by now?

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4 hours ago, ILoveSilence said:

Listen, do yourself a favour, Google famous people with HSV. I was honestly surprised. Seriously, it seems like half the Hollywood is carrying this torch as well. Brad Pitt has it apparently. I Brad Pitt were to approach you tomorrow and ask you if you would want to make it work cause you both already have it would you say no? You'll find someone I am absolutely positive about that. And it will get better. We've sent men into space and elected Donald Trump, surely we can beat a lousy virus by now?

It seems Britney Spears has it too and she can pull shows after shows. So I hope my OB goes soon and I can be more active 

 

theres gotta be more people having herpes in Hollywood, considering 1/10 people have it globally :)

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On 9/29/2019 at 6:51 PM, ILoveSilence said:

Listen, do yourself a favour, Google famous people with HSV. I was honestly surprised. Seriously, it seems like half the Hollywood is carrying this torch as well. Brad Pitt has it apparently. I Brad Pitt were to approach you tomorrow and ask you if you would want to make it work cause you both already have it would you say no? You'll find someone I am absolutely positive about that. And it will get better. We've sent men into space and elected Donald Trump, surely we can beat a lousy virus by now?

Lmao i feel you on that! I know things get better it’s just a rollercoaster. Plus the OBs aren’t mild for everyone so it’s important to recognize that. I think the OBs are what trigger people into depression. 

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Hi,

I am about 7 months in since my diagnosis. I can totally empathize with the feelings of anger, shame, guilt, and then some. I totally don’t trust guys any more either. That being said, i think in time it does get easier. But it definitely is a life changing experience. I think it’s so hard to try to talk to people who aren’t going through it. They can be supportive but they still aren’t going to fully understand it. Like it may not be a big deal to some people, but it is a big deal when your going through it. I do hope things get better for you 💜. Its definitely one of the hardest things to be thrown your way, but it does not define us. One thing I learned from this is it def separates the ones who really care about you and the ones who just want to have sex. The right one will come along and it will not bother them. Don’t lose hope, you got this. 

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