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newtothis26

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newtothis26

Like many have said, I never thought I would be on here. I went from bleeding during sex, pain with urination, to big painful bumps. I started the antiviral and already feel some relief physically. However, I feel beyond hopeless and depressed. I have always greatly enjoyed sex, and it has been a part of my life since I lost my virginity, but I know that that will change now. I feel so dirty, embarrassed, shameful, and like no one will ever want me me again. I am planning to go talk to a therapist, but I have never felt this low. My whole world seems to have changed with this, and I feel so lonely. I wish there was less of a stigma around it considering how common it is. 

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Roxanne11

This really saddens me 😪 I'm sorry this has happened to you and I'm sorry that this has happened to anyone officially diagnosed. I think the mental trauma is a lot greater than the actual condition itself by the sounds of it (I'm still testing). Know that there are really awesome supportive people here on this forum who have a great deal of experience. And I'm glad you're seeing a therapist to tackle the mental anguish. There is nothing to be ashamed of btw! Sex is part of life... I mean I LOVE sex but unfortunately we have to be wary of STDs especially in this day and age.  But I think you'll find this to be a lot more common than what you think and I've read a lot of people's stories on here that they continue on to still have great sex/romantic lives! All the best - you'll get through it xx

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Tulip79
2 hours ago, newtothis26 said:

Like many have said, I never thought I would be on here. I went from bleeding during sex, pain with urination, to big painful bumps. I started the antiviral and already feel some relief physically. However, I feel beyond hopeless and depressed. I have always greatly enjoyed sex, and it has been a part of my life since I lost my virginity, but I know that that will change now. I feel so dirty, embarrassed, shameful, and like no one will ever want me me again. I am planning to go talk to a therapist, but I have never felt this low. My whole world seems to have changed with this, and I feel so lonely. I wish there was less of a stigma around it considering how common it is. 

Everyone here has been where you are at or going through the same thing.  Your body is going through an adjustment right now but it all gets better with time.  Take a day at a time, and be hard on yourself.  You will be back to your normal self soon.

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Skiracer321

Being a women you will be just fine.  Remember its much easier a women to get laid than a guy.  Sorry for the crudness but it is true.  Being female puts you in higher demand than us males irregardless of your situation.   If it were hiv then i would say there would be great difficulty.   Take care.  The passing of time will heal you.  

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