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doritos

I recently started dating a guy- but he's still married. I haven't had sex with him yet but I want to, just told me he has herpes( got it from his cheating wife). It's a confusing situation. Everything I'm reading is scaring me about the shedding. if I knew this was long term I might consider it, but I don't know what's gonna happen? You'll all probably tell me to run I know!

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VVK

I'll only say that you should tread very carefully. If you get this down there, it will stay with you potentially for the rest of your life and there's no way of knowing how bad it will be for you. There's also a lot more going on here than just herpes with him being married. That said, it purely depends on your intentions here..

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alwall0828

I say to take things slow. This guy could be the best guy ever. Don't scare yourself into possibly having the best times, and the best life you could have because of a virus. If you aren't ready for anything long term you shouldn't risk the sex. And I mean this for several reasons. std's, kids, anything. You could have greater consequences than just Herpes.

But realize this is only a small part of his life. It doesn't run his life or change what kind of person he is. Yes, if you got it, it could be a bad case. But you could go forever possibly with getting nothing.

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Drowning in a daydream

Intentions

The first concern that I have for you is his married status. As others have stated its the long term point of view you need to be concerned about. I ask myself about the cheating wife bit all while he is still married. I know that you havent given details as to the status of his marriage but like it has been said before here you need to look at the long term relationship here and not so much the virus. The virus is managable and staggering numbers of people have it. Look at the relationship first and see where its going. Be honest and safe with yourself first. I wont tell you to run because lots of people with this virus have a hard time finding someone to stay around with them. Be honest with yourself and only when you believe that something will come of this should you put yourself and your health in his hands. Good luck my friend

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alwall0828

I understand what drowning is saying. Be cautious. But myself and my boyfriend are still technically married, gonig through a divorce. And here in VA you have to be separated for 1 yr with kids to get a divorce. So I would make sure he isn't out for just a booty call with the chances you will be taking.

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