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    • alphaCero
      It is so easy to stress over all kinds of symptoms, but generally speaking I'd say to trust your GP. They have the training, and they were there, so it's reasonable to believe them regarding your oral symptoms. I'd follow their advice and try to take care of yourself to be comforted and heal. In terms of your concerns about having Ghsv, a type-specific test for you and your partner can at lest tell whether either of you have a type I or II infection *somewhere*. The symptoms for hsv can be pretty variable and sometimes so mild that you wouldn't even notice, which holds true for men and women. If you don't have it, you can be thankful! If you do, you can be thankful the symptoms are so mild the possibility never even occurred to you until now! Remember that even if you have a positive test result of some kind, it's not conclusive where/when/by whom you might have been exposed. Just use the information you get to make informed decisions going forward. You're not alone no matter what the outcome, and every outcome is manageable. Be well
    • WarriorKing
      normally for most people hsv is lips and genitals, not tongue. fear can make you afraid of every little thing that you did or did not ever notice before and now you have an excess of fear. tongue irritation can occur for many reasons, none of which i am qualified to discuss. i suggest not shaving genital areas, trim hairs, don't upset the skin.  
    • Just a human being
      A- typical symtoms are rarer. It is less usual I think for a pimple to scab like that. But I am no pimple expert. Some people say if there is pus it isn’t but I think things out of spectrum can crop up with herpes. The likelihood of picking up herpes with condom use is low. Most of the mucus membranes for men is on the shaft of the penis. If the condom is used correctly and it was used during oral sex it’s highly unlikely. It’s too late to swab from what I personally know. Also I do not think symtoms on the bottom is common for men. Women tend to present with symtoms around the anus. I don’t know about men. Your situation sits out in a whole lot of unlikely and less than typical so I think you should put your weight of probabilities in the very unlikely and just follow up in the case of rare circumstances without worrying or becoming hysterical. 
    • Megneedshelp1
      So this is going to be a long one but please stick it out. I’ll be extremely grateful. So after going to my doctors for a general check up due to me having Molluscum (had during childhood, but reappeared when I was 19) he mentioned having a routine STD check. I thought nothing of it and accepted. Everything came back negative, syphillis, chlamydia, ghonnerea and HIV.  What I didn’t realise is that herpes wasn’t a routine test and I started looking online about what herpes involved. I was scared and uncertain about my status now beings as the more I read. The more symptoms I believe I’ve had. starting in 2018 I had developed iritis which apparently can be a result of H. This however was during a stressful period of my life.  Since my first sexual partner my posterior fourchette has always been weak and I have little tears (not serious) ever since. They heal within a day.  However. Whilst itchiness, blisters, soreness is the typical symptoms for when people have it (and I have never had) I have noticed that I have had a very very thin, not deep, none sore (unless touched) cut on my inner labia a few weeks ago.  Then three days ago I had a tiny tiny cut which resembled more of very thin tear I guess it closer to a definition, since the one on my labia was more of a cut ( but I would also say like a scratch) on the upper part of my genitals just where the pubic area ended. It was quite sore when touched but didn’t bother me otherwise. I have had this cut before however typically when my pubic hair is growing back. In around about the same area which goes away within 2-3 days maximum. Does this seem like genital herpes? further more, I now have concerns about my mouth too. This is the first time this has ever happened to me. And had occurred two days after I started panicking about this, so I would say I was extremely stressed. My tongue turned Pale and patchy with red indents on my tongue. Ulcers (eventhough they didn’t hurt) appeared on the back of the sides of my tongue. The sores then travelled all along the sides of my tongue to the tip of my tongue. (A few yellow patches still being on the back of either side of my tongue) Being in one place, then moving to another. I must say that I had smaller sores and then I had food poisoning which resulted in vomiting which then made the sores triple in amount. Also there are light yellow patches/dots on the back of my throat.  I have been using salt water rinses and bonjella on the sores. It’s important to note that the sores don’t hurt or irritate me UNLESS I use the bonjela which causes them to burn a little.  I have never had anything like this in my mouth before and this has lasted two weeks,  And I guess I’m just extremely upset because I’ve only had two sexual partners. And have been with my current partner for two years. So for all of this to suddenly occur has created so much stress for me. I’ve already told him that there is a possibility since I wanted to be open from the very beginning, but since the COVID scares, anywhere I could get the cuts on my genital swabbed is closed and it’s already gone now. So I’m hoping I could eat some advice here ..  when seeing my GP about my mouth she said it didnt look like herpes and was quite certain. She said it just looked like ulcers and said it could be down to the immense stress I’ve put myself under due to panicking. So... Is this thrush/stress/herpes???  Here are the links to the Reddit page I made showing the problems with my mouth as I unfortunately have no pictures of my genital cut. https://www.reddit.com/user/MegneedsHelp/comments/fql64p/is_this_herpes/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://www.reddit.com/user/MegneedsHelp/comments/fql040/is_this_herpes/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://www.reddit.com/user/MegneedsHelp/comments/fqkzlh/is_this_herpes/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf   THANK YOU 
    • WarriorKing
      If they posted "cases" in the USA of HSV it would be over 200 million. they don't. most people do not know they carry. And yes, complications from HSV rarely lead to very serious stuff and death. For covid-19, as of today they are stating 2,211 deaths in USA. Hopefully the end point is no worse than the seasonal flu. For the flu in USA CDC expects for Oct 2019 to March 2020 38,000,000 – 54,000,000 flu illnesses   400,000 – 730,000 flu hospitalizations   24,000 – 62,000 flu deaths And these numbers happen nearly every year    
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I guess I am just using this post to vent, because I feel so isolated and have no one to talk to about it. I’ve had HSV 2 for at least 2 years now, I got it from my ex who cheated like crazy and was careless enough to give me herpes. Because of this I hardly date or give anyone a chance to get to know me. 
 

I met a guy I really like, I’ve actually like him for a while but didn’t want to approach him because of my status. But he approached me one day and he was everything I hoped for. Eventually he wanted to have sex, I really did too but I couldn’t bring myself to disclose and I didn’t want to have sex with him without disclosing either so I turned him down and now he won’t talk to me. 
 

I really don’t see myself ever dating again. I’ve seen so many disclosure success stories but it’s just too hard. I was already very shy and introverted before getting herpes and  this just made it 100 times worse. I really don’t know where to go from here. I come to this site hoping for good news about a cure or vaccine and everything is years away. 
 

It’s so shitty that some of us get tested and live responsibly in misery while others like my ex deny it and move on with their lives. I wish the CDC included HSV testing with the standard tests, it’s so unfair that so many people who probably have and don’t know walk around clueless spreading it to others. 
 

:( rant over for now. Hopefully one day we’ll have something that allows us to get our lives back. 

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blurneworder

I disclosed to someone and they replied with "I already have it orally." 

Perhaps your suitor already has it! Even if he doesn't, he might not even care that you have it.

I told one of my good friends I had it and she replied "I have it, too. It's not a big deal."

My point is not that herpes is not a big deal, rather, having herpes might not be a concern to every person you meet.

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1 minute ago, blurneworder said:

I disclosed to someone and they replied with "I already have it orally." 

Perhaps your suitor already has it! Even if he doesn't, he might not even care that you have it.

I told one of my good friends I had it and she replied "I have it, too. It's not a big deal."

That’s encouraging and maybe he does but now he doesn’t want to talk to me. So it seems best to just lose out on someone I really wanted than to chase him down and confess my secret with the hope that he has it too. No point in exposing myself now. Most people don’t get checked for it, I think my odds are pretty low that he has it or that he knows about it if he does. 
 

Hopefully I’ll give dating a chance again one day and if I like someone I’ll have the courage to tell them and they’ll respond that way. I can handle the rejection, I’m more scared they’ll reject me and then tell everyone they know. In my city there’s always a witch hunt for people with herpes. I’m surrounded by idiots. 

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blurneworder
34 minutes ago, hope2486 said:

That’s encouraging and maybe he does but now he doesn’t want to talk to me. So it seems best to just lose out on someone I really wanted than to chase him down and confess my secret with the hope that he has it too. No point in exposing myself now. Most people don’t get checked for it, I think my odds are pretty low that he has it or that he knows about it if he does. 
 

Hopefully I’ll give dating a chance again one day and if I like someone I’ll have the courage to tell them and they’ll respond that way. I can handle the rejection, I’m more scared they’ll reject me and then tell everyone they know. In my city there’s always a witch hunt for people with herpes. I’m surrounded by idiots. 

A witch hunt? If that's what your town is concerning itself with, move outta that place!

I understand what you mean by fearing other people knowing your secret. I'd be willing to bet that if others found out, they wouldn't really care as it doesn't affect them. 

You'd probably elicit a stronger reaction from people who learn what political party you support or what music you think is good/bad. I think the stain of supporting the "wrong" political candidate is far greater than what STD you may have once had/have.

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15 minutes ago, blurneworder said:

A witch hunt? If that's what your town is concerning itself with, move outta that place!

I understand what you mean by fearing other people knowing your secret. I'd be willing to bet that if others found out, they wouldn't really care as it doesn't affect them. 

You'd probably elicit a stronger reaction from people who learn what political party you support or what music you think is good/bad. I think the stain of supporting the "wrong" political candidate is far greater than what STD you may have once had/have.

You’re probably right, and I do need to leave this place!! Thank you for taking the time to respond :). 
 

Some days it doesn’t bother me at all then some days it hits me hard. 

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blurneworder

Some days are good and bad for me, too.

Just remember -- having herpes doesn't mean you are any less valuable or loved.

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Davey
On 1/13/2020 at 12:14 AM, hope2486 said:

You’re probably right, and I do need to leave this place!! Thank you for taking the time to respond :). 
 

Some days it doesn’t bother me at all then some days it hits me hard. 

Yeah from all the herpes-folk I've talked to / dated it's a much bigger deal in small towns - but the way I see it, you can literally go your whole life too afraid to disclose to people, or just go for it.

There's no guarantee of a cure, but there's definitely a cure for stigmas - and that's talking about it and not treating it like some horrible secret. Because it's not.

I've disclosed to multiple partners over 7 years and have not once been rejected for it - that just comes from confidence and being informative, usually people just appreciate your honesty, and if they don't then they're not worth your time.

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hope2486
On 2/6/2020 at 10:46 PM, Davey said:

Yeah from all the herpes-folk I've talked to / dated it's a much bigger deal in small towns - but the way I see it, you can literally go your whole life too afraid to disclose to people, or just go for it.

There's no guarantee of a cure, but there's definitely a cure for stigmas - and that's talking about it and not treating it like some horrible secret. Because it's not.

I've disclosed to multiple partners over 7 years and have not once been rejected for it - that just comes from confidence and being informative, usually people just appreciate your honesty, and if they don't then they're not worth your time.

Thank you! I’ve decided next time to not be afraid to tell someone. I do live in a small town which sucks lol. 

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