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I'm a confused cheater

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Hi everyone,

Well I was just diognosed with Genital Herpes about a month ago. I feel like I deserve what I got for what I did. I was in a 4 year old relationship kind of engaged with my ex. He went on a week long trip and I stayed at the house(we live together) and I got lonely (I know it's not an excuse for what I did) and I starting drinking heavily with his roomate. Well that led on to unprotested sex. Well a couple of days later almost a week later I notice white blisters on my stuff. I'm in the medical field so I knew or at least had an idea of what I had. I made an appt with a doctor to get checked. Before I left the house I tried to make a joke about it to my b/f (Shaun) I said I don't think we can have sex anymore, he said y? I said because I think I have Herpes. Then I started crying and he gave me a hug and said "there is no point in crying about it now, it's not going to make it go away" I didn't have sex with him so I know I didn't give it to him. I got it from the roomate. So I just went to the doctor and I got my fears confirmed. So I went home and I told Shaun and he kicked me out of the house. I told him I did cheat on him. So time passes by and we slowly start talking again. It's been about a month and now he lets me spend the night at his house in his bed with him(I used to sleep on the couch) So 2 days ago he hugged me for once again since our break up. We started fooling around and he wanted to have sex, so I said ok but wear a condom. He did, but then yesterday while sitting on the couch with him he said "I'm scared of you, of what you have. So I don't think we should have sex at all again" I felt like a piece of shit. I felt like I would never have kids with him ever. We had planned to have kids in a year before all this happened. I really do love him and I'm confused as to what his plans are. He's told me he loves me and I trust him, we are actually moving to Utah in March he has a 10 year old already. But I'm afraid that If I talk to him about it it will just make him not be with me anymore.

I just need some advice please. :(

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You should educate yourself about H, talk to him about where the relationship stands at this point and explain the risk and precautions necessary.

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