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slt610

Ok so I was diagnosed with hpv (genital warts) 2 years ago I had them treated, they went away and I never thought about it again. I now, unfortunately (have had only 2 partners in 2 years--wut luck), have hsv. I read on MedHelp.com that its your preference to tell future partners that you have hpv since doctors think that the virus is suppressed by the immune system after some time, although you never really know if its completely out of your system. So, my question is why do we get to choose to tell with hpv but it seems your obligated to tell partners that you have hsv?? They are both viruses that have no cure so why is it different? Any opinions?

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memyselfI

wow

...interesting question. You should probably tell your partners about all of your sexual history and by that I mean all viruses and/or diseases.

Why would you want to be intimate with someone you can't even be honest with? I'm not trying to judge you, I just can't imagine doing that. Perhaps there was a point in my life when I could of because there was a point in my life that I was dishonest about alot of things. It took me a long time to forgive myself for my behaviors and those I hurt with my dishonesty ...and I'm not even talking about sex and junk... just plain dishonesty.

Much luv to you!!

Meme

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VVK

MedHelp is not the ultimate ethical authority - you are. It is your choice to care for the safety of your sexual partners. Personally, I think it should be a responsibility. Currently, it is a criminal offense to knowingly infect a sexual partner with a STI. There are also lawsuits over it. But honestly.. put yourself in the shoes of whoever you are sleeping with. Many people on these forums were infected by people who knew they had HSV but did not tell.. how would that person feel like after getting HSV from you?

As for HPV, just because doctors think that the virus is suppressed after some time, that does not make them right.

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Caliope

The most important part of disclosure is the exchange between partners of information on either party. You may be afraid to tell someone you have hsv but what do they have?????

If you neglect to dislose your sexual history you take the risk of your partner not disclosing their sexual history and in so doing you ultimately take your own health for granted and put yourself at an unprecedented risk for becoming infected for illnesses sometimes far more threatening than either hpv or hsv.

This is your choice. No one can force you to disclose your status.

In this day and age it is pure craziness to simply trust someone with your "life". Your next partner may not feel it is necessary to volunteer to you that they've been with someone who is infected with HIV or even AIDS. If you do not ask or require some kind of evidence of a partners sexual health then you have voluntarily walked yourself into a situation that could have grave consequences.

It is up to you.

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