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Alright, heres the situation:

I have not been tested, but believe that I have contracted Herpes Simplex Virus 1 on my mouth, genitals, and anus.

-The girl that I believe transmitted me this virus has had cold sores in the past, but none were present around her mouth when she performed oral sex on me..

-Ive been experiencing itching, redness, and bumps, and the symptoms do come and go.

- I got an STD check recently and was diagnosed with Chlamydia, which i have been treating through prescription pills the last 10 days. Im not sure if the doctors tested for HSV as well..

And on top of all this confusion with my health, I recently met one of the prettiest greatest girls i have ever met, and over the course of the last 4 weeks, Ive developed a decent relationship with her and dont know what to do up to this point. She's told me she wants a boyfriend, and shes made it pretty clear that im the one she wants, but i dont know:

Do I tell her? How Should I tell her?

I feel like if i tell her at this point, she will use it as a rumor and spread it around the campus faster than herpes. But I also feel that if i dont tell her about my suspicions, I could turn out to be right and if we had been having sex life, she most probably contracted it.

Someone please just help me out.

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Seems to me you're kind of putting the cart before the horse, my friend. First of all, get the test done. Until you've done that, anything you do or don't tell anyone is pure speculation. As far as a sexual relationship goes, cool your heels (and everything else) until you know what you're dealing with. Whether it's herpes or something else, those symptoms you're exhibiting need to be addressed before you even consider getting up close and personal with another warm body.

There's nothing wrong with not rushing headlong into sex just because you've developed a 'decent relationship' with someone. While you're attending to your physical issues, you may find your 'decent relationship' gets even better. Once you know exactly what the facts are, then you should discuss the results if you want to take it to the next level. But don't guess. If you guess wrong, people can get hurt, and you don't want that.

And I'm sorry, but I gotta ask... if you suspect that she'd spread it all over campus, are you sure about the 'decent relationship' part? If I were you, and I actually thought that, I'd be running the other way. She may be pretty, but being pretty doesn't make up for that kind of character flaw. Just food for thought.

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