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Hi, just been diagnosed and gutted!

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Hi i have been diagnosed for a week now.

I also have as well as Herpes, genital warts, i had Chlamydia about two years ago.

I have a boyfriend of three months and i was upfront and honest when i noticed signs of STD's...he has been thinking for 3 days now and is very unsure about what to do regarding our relationship. Which i understand, we don't know if he has caught anything or not until signs/symptoms decide to show!

I feel gutted..............shocked............sick............tired............fed up and i do not want to go back to work on Thursday. I feel so low, IF my boyfriend decides he wants to leave me then i have this big fear of future men rejcting me as soon as i tell them i have herpes and have had warts.

I think if i was my boyfriend i would leave me.

Why is there no cure!!!! This day and age technology is advanced!

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24684, what you can't change, you learn to live with, and you will, I promise. It's only been a week since your diagnosis, so it will take time to adjust to this change in your life. But that's all it is... a change. Certainly not the end.

Your bf will decide for himself what he wants to do, but regardless of his decision, your life will go on. And it will be different, because you're going to have to look at sex differently. If it ever was a game to you, it isn't anymore, but that's not alltogether a bad thing. If nothing else, this will help you weed out the keepers from the throw-backs. But there's no point in worrying about the future. It will take care of itself. Like Charlie Brown said, "I can only dread one day at a time." I've always liked that.

You're going to be fine. Just give yourself some time, and things will start to fall back into place. And if you have any questions or just need to gripe, we're always here. We've all been where you are now, and it's a bumpy ride, I know. Chin up.

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I have both to. It sucks. Dont beat yourself up. You would be suprised how many others have std's out there. Its crazy just think of all the teens you know that did dumm shit when they where kids and did not use condoms. We have all be there just some get lucky and some dont.

Take care and be well =]

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