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    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @whereismyanswer my only comment for now is that are you sure these are cold sores and not another condition such as angular cheilitis? Valtrex is effective against oral cold sores in 95%+ of cases so there's a chance that something else is contributing at least.
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @Hjkl33 and welcome to the community. You are right to dismiss the IgM results, they have no real value in an adult for all the reasons I'm sure you have read about. Your positive test is a very low positive and hence very likely to be false. This combined with what I suspect has been no outbreaks makes a false positive highly likely. Another IgG test will help your understanding, just insist this is what you want.
    • whereismyanswer
      hey there! I get them on both corners of my mouth. the right side feels like it never heals, while the left has outbreaks less frequently.   I was thinking an immunologist might be my next step since my GP is really giving me nothing anymore.
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @whereismyanswer a good place to start might be if you can tell us what do these outbreaks consist of, where are they? Always on you lips? It may be that an immunologist might also be a good idea, but a good dermatologist is usually brilliant. 
    • whereismyanswer
      Hello there. I'm a 24F, who has  had HSV 1 for 3 and a half years now. I got my first cold sore December of 2016 out of no where when I was 21. I was in school and working at a job that had me very stressed at all time. I came home one day and saw the bumps. Initially, I'd never thought anything of it as my dad always had them when I was growing up. Of course, you go on Google and after about 20 minutes of searching, you are absolutely devastated and disgusted with yourself. The first year after my 1st outbreak, I'd occasionally experience some shedding, but didn't get another breakout until the following year. Since that outbreak, I've pretty much steadily had cold sores every month for the last 2 and a half years. I was told birth control would help, because I was noticing outbreaks begin about a week before my cycle. Didn't change anything though. Earlier this year, I finally decided it was time to start suppressive therapy, given the fact that I had no success with natural remedies or hormone leveling using the birth control. I've seen no changes in the frequency of my cold sores since starting 1GM of Valcyclovior. It's been about 3 months, and I met with my doctor today to discuss the issue. She basically told me there was nothing she could do and to see a dermatologist. She also gave me the list of vitamins I already to take to try to include with my daily antiviral. I feel completely defeated. I don't know what to do now or if there is any hope. It hurts me so much because I'm so young and nothing has gotten better. Also, I don't think a dermatologist is the answer. Has anyone else experienced this?
islandhopper

Non HSV dating sites-taking the plunge

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islandhopper

I realise that the odds of meeting someone ‘in the same boat’ that I connect with and in the same area, are slim. Having tried some of the HSV dating sites such as positive singles, hype and tingler, I have found that people are either too far away, don’t reply to messages or just disappear from the site altogether (fake profiles?). Maybe I was just unlucky with these sites.

After a recent and life changing health scare (Myocarditis) I’m keen to settle down with someone.

So, I have concluded that I need to give non HSV dating sites a shot.

Given that 4 out of 5 people are ok with it (to quote HVA uk) what have I got to lose ?

But why do I feel so despondent? I shouldn’t be. The last girl I dated was someone I met at work 2&1/2 years ago and the first one I had ‘the talk’ with. I said ‘Do you get cold sores’ she said yes, and I said ‘So do I, but down there’ and she said ‘so’ and that was that. She wasn’t bothered by it at all. Sadly, we split up after 4months due to other reasons 

So, here goes.... Wish me luck !

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Tulip79
6 hours ago, islandhopper said:

I realise that the odds of meeting someone ‘in the same boat’ that I connect with and in the same area, are slim. Having tried some of the HSV dating sites such as positive singles, hype and tingler, I have found that people are either too far away, don’t reply to messages or just disappear from the site altogether (fake profiles?). Maybe I was just unlucky with these sites.

After a recent and life changing health scare (Myocarditis) I’m keen to settle down with someone.

So, I have concluded that I need to give non HSV dating sites a shot.

Given that 4 out of 5 people are ok with it (to quote HVA uk) what have I got to lose ?

But why do I feel so despondent? I shouldn’t be. The last girl I dated was someone I met at work 2&1/2 years ago and the first one I had ‘the talk’ with. I said ‘Do you get cold sores’ she said yes, and I said ‘So do I, but down there’ and she said ‘so’ and that was that. She wasn’t bothered by it at all. Sadly, we split up after 4months due to other reasons 

So, here goes.... Wish me luck !

Get out there and live your best life.  

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Lizard

I honestly have just resorted to putting my HSV status in my dating profile bio. That way if someone matches with me, I'd hope they would read it and ask me about it if they are unsure. I always provide information too and a lot of the time most are ok with it. It saves most awkward conversations that way. 

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Tulip79
4 hours ago, Lizard said:

I honestly have just resorted to putting my HSV status in my dating profile bio. That way if someone matches with me, I'd hope they would read it and ask me about it if they are unsure. I always provide information too and a lot of the time most are ok with it. It saves most awkward conversations that way. 

Wow, you are brave.  How long have you been doing that?  

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speechless_1

I've honestly thought about putting my HSV status on my profile but i always chicken out.  I'm on non HSV dating sites now and I disclose early - often before meeting, I've had acceptance and rejection.  I'm ok with it now, though the rejection was hard at first.  I was actually surprised to hear that a lot of people had dated someone who had Herpes or who knew someone who had it - thats actually built my confidence a lot.  

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lovethislife

Hi! I've been considering joining an online dating app as well. I have had HSV2 for 4 years. I seem to have an outbreak every 2-3 months. I am so scared of rejection but also want to be upfront about my STD. I live in a pretty small community so it feels very vulnerable to publicly state I have HSV 2 on my profile. Nervous and wondering how you navigate this? 

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islandhopper

I’m not brave enough to actually put on my profile that I have HSV. I think it will put people off at the first hurdle, without giving you a chance to explain how common it is, that it’s not a big deal for most people and other facts.

I’ve also asked myself how I would of reacted years ago (before I got HSV), and I think I would of reacted badly-in incurable disease that causes painful sores on the genitals-no thanks. But I was younger, uneducated and not in possession of the facts. I’ve since told people I have it-one that I dated and she was fine with it (she got cold sores anyway) and another, who was just a friend, and she’d never heard of it. I guess everyone is different ...

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