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Neli331

My boyfriend hs herpes. This is something completely new for me. We have been dating for a short time and he has been living with it for over 5 years. He was brave enpugh to tell me and I have been ok with but it definately will take sometime. We use condoms and he hasn't had an outbreak in awhile. But, I want to have children someday and I don't want to have herpes. Is it possible to concieve without getting herpes? If so, h:confused:ow?

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I'm assuming that he has genital herpes. I'm also assuming that you are HSV negative.. if you don't know, you should get tested.

If the assumptions hold, realize that the herpes virus is not transmitted through semen (unless the semen touched sores on the skin). The virus usually is transmitted through direct skin-to-skin contact.

If you are playing it safe, there are methods for artificial insemination - which usually involves the injection of his sperm via a syringe into your cervix. Ask your doc about this.

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alwall0828

There are many people in the world that one partner is positve and one is not. You just need to make sure that he has no sores present and realize that you are taking a slim chance, but a chance of getting the virus.

Of course the more you have sex without a condom the greater your risk would be. Speak it over with your BF. have him tell you his symptoms. Where he gets his outbreaks, what they look like. Two sets of eyes are better than one.

But like I said there is always a chance, and if you are in it for a baby, I'm assuming you are in it for life. And if you really love someone then it's a chance you would have to be willing to take.

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My boyfriend hs herpes. This is something completely new for me. We have been dating for a short time and he has been living with it for over 5 years. He was brave enough to tell me and I have been ok with but it definately will take sometime. We use condoms and he hasn't had an outbreak in awhile. But, I want to have children someday and I don't want to have herpes. Is it possible to concieve without getting herpes? If so, how? :confused:

Just be careful -- a lot of cases of HSV-2 are transferred from the cervix to the tip of the urethra in the male, which means the semen can pick up the virus on the way out. The wikipedia page on HSV-2 points out that *not* ejaculating inside the vagina is one way of reducing the risk of transmission.

There are statistics that there is a 10% chance each year of an HSV+ partner transmitting it to their partner, but that is if no barrier precautions are taken, just avoiding outbreaks.

The only other hope is to take Valtrex or Famvir as suppressive therapy, which also reduces transmission. Hopefully one of the new wonderdrugs or vaccines will be on the market in a couple of short years, e.g. the helicase-primase antivirals or ribozyme solutions that will more or less 'cure' HSV2, i.e. make outbreaks and skin expression a thing of the past...

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Also, while I think of it, there are some microbicidal gels under development and testing which could also be out in a couple of years, which (hopefully) kill the HSV virus on contact, and are intended to be used during penetration. Hopefully they are not toxic or hostile to spermatozoa also.

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alwall0828

Not that was wikipedia says is not true. But I wouldn't beleive everything you read on wilipedia. I could go on there and post that I pass herpes by touch door knobs.

We aren't even allowed to use it in college as a reference because you can't believe everything said.

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Not that was wikipedia says is not true. But I wouldn't beleive everything you read on wilipedia. I could go on there and post that I pass herpes by touch door knobs.

We aren't even allowed to use it in college as a reference because you can't believe everything said.

Yeah, I know. I have also heard convincing anecdotal evidence about this too.

At least you can get the info from wikipedia, whereas the following people are *NOT* prepared to run detailed information campaigns against STIs or HSV-2 in particular, with minor exceptions:

- state govts

- Fed govt

- universities and colleges

- schools

- doctors

They would rather see everyone catch the disease, THEN tell them about it. 1 in 4 infection rate in the US, the most affluent country in the world with a population of 300 million???

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Desert_Pup

Transfer between positive hsv2's

From what I have been reading all over the net... If both partners are + for hsv2 and both have had it for over 6 months, both people already have the antibodies.

Are you sure you can transfer it from the spot where each one had it if you are both positive?? Especially if you avoid sex during ob's.

Thoughts?

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