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I learned this week I have HSV2. Last year, I got a small, itchy rash on my sacrum after sex. It took a few months to go away and was annoying but not enough to go to the doctor. I casually mentioned it to a doctor when I was being seen for something else. He nonchalantly said, “You have herpes.” Shock, denial, no, he’s wrong, it’s on my sacrum! Fast forward to this week and it came back. Same place. I started researching and realized he might be right. So I scheduled a blood test, which came back with HSV2 specific antibodies at greater than 8.0. I also decided to go to urgent care, where I had to request they test it because the NP there just said, “It’s herpatic, could be shingles, doesn’t matter we treat it all the same, here’s drugs.” WTF. There’s a big difference between shingles and herpes when it comes to how you live your life! I am still waiting for the results of the swab, but from what I understand, the blood test is pretty conclusive. I have herpes. 

Like probably everyone, I’ve gone through the freak out, and still find myself there several times a day. This is all so new and scary. I have a doctor appointment on Monday to get all my questions answered and develop a treatment plan. 

Glad I found this group. I’m sure I’ll have lots of questions along the way. Thanks for being here and listening. 

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Just here to tell you it gets so much easier! I was SO depressed when I was first diagnosed, a little over a year ago, and now I feel pretty fine about it. I recommend finding an article that has a lot of info about herpes (specifically, how incredibly common it is, and how the stigma is a bigger problem than the virus itself) and send it to a couple of friends so they can support you in an informed way! Lots of people don't realize how common it is and how it's really not that big a deal, and once they're educated then they can educate other people and help you get through it. And again, you really will feel fine about it eventually :)

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On 8/3/2020 at 9:16 PM, anna_ said:

Just here to tell you it gets so much easier! I was SO depressed when I was first diagnosed, a little over a year ago, and now I feel pretty fine about it. I recommend finding an article that has a lot of info about herpes (specifically, how incredibly common it is, and how the stigma is a bigger problem than the virus itself) and send it to a couple of friends so they can support you in an informed way! Lots of people don't realize how common it is and how it's really not that big a deal, and once they're educated then they can educate other people and help you get through it. And again, you really will feel fine about it eventually :)

Yeah to be honest you kinda get over it. This december will be 2 years for me. Meds like valacyclovir are life saver to most.I don't even think about it anymore. You do get to know your body better though. Some people have triggers that will bring on an outbreak. Knowing your body helps with getting this virus under control.

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How do you tall to a potential new partner about it? I didn't get that courtesy.  I was flat out lied to about his results.  I hate him and feel like he ruined my life! How do you move forward!?

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How do you tall to a potential new partner about it? I didn't get that courtesy.  I was flat out lied to about his results.  I hate him and feel like he ruined my life! How do you move forward!?

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I focus on trying to heal myself.  I don’t believe that this is permanent.  And I no longer date.  I don’t want the drama nor the stress.  I’ve found that my overall health has improved and I am much more knowledgeable regarding natural antivirals and immune system boosters.  Amino acids play a very large role.  Just breathe.  You’re gonna be ok.  The symptoms do fade away in time.  

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I just want to be able to stop thinking about it. It is ruining my overall health.  He ruined my life and has now ruined another woman too but she stayed with him. I wanted to warn her but she wouldn't have believed me.  But I'm sure she would now. I just want to move on with my life but I'm afraid I will spend the rest of my life alone. 

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I think we can all sympathize and please look into antivirals like valacyclovir if you have lots of outbreaks. They reduce the healing time.

I'm not trying to minimize your experience at all but I think you will come to see having outbreaks on your sacrum only as a blessing.

I have frequent outbreaks on my lip. They are noticeable and leave my lip discolored for over a week each time I have an outbreak. Gives me social anxiety and makes me have to stay inside for days whenever it occurs. I would trade having them on my sacrum than somewhere visible like my face in a heartbeat!

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