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Lolahernandez13579

So I regular get checked for stds but herpes is not in the routine check like you mostly know and in the U.K. you can't get checked unless you have a blister. I recently got these like white patches on my pubic area, I spoke to the doctor and they dismissed it as just decoloration. Next, I had spots show up, they are red and itchy which is why I noticed them, they appeared on my thighs, on my butt, down my legs (front and back) and up my stomach, again I phoned they doctors and they said it was a heat rash and nothing to worry about. I then had a white spot appear on my pubic area, quite big, spoke to the doctors again and they told me it's just a cyst and nothing to worry about. The doctors have told me I'm extremely paranoid and I've convinced myself I have it but everything they've seen is fine. Do I take what they say to be true? Do I stop googling hours on end whether I see anything that looks slightly like mine and have a mental breakdown? I'm so worried guys and I just have a weird feeling. I have no symptoms except what I mentioned above and itching. This is driving me insane.

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Hey @Lolahernandez13579 I think you are doing this to yourself. All you can do is go with the most likely explanation and what your doctors are telling you. I can't help you too much with what is going on, but it is more than fair to say that herpes should not feature in your thinking - none of the symptoms you describe are a match. 

Maybe your best bet is to push your doctor to see a dermatologist for more detailed answers to your issues.

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Thankyou so much for replying! Yes, I definitely think I should try push and see a dermatologist! It's such a hard situation! I'm seeing my boyfriend next week and I'm just so worried about it all and not eating and sleeping. Very thankful to people like you for replying! 

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I think a woman's intuition is usually on point. I wouldn't engage in any sexual activity until it's cleared up. I would also discuss your concerns with your boyfriend and be very open and honest. But I also wouldn't make yourself crazy over it. Stress is not helpful. Is there any medication you can get for now? I have been applying aloe from the plant itself to my infected area. I thought initially it was a rash but it ended up being an outbreak. Sometimes doctors are wrong, but its hard to know if you really are making it into more or hard to accurately visualize whats going on without seeing it. How did this come about? How long have you been with your boyfriend ? 

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