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Hello All,

I had sex yesterday morning with my partner, and I used my saliva on his penis and my vulva (no direct contact mouth to penis though).

Later in the morning I felt the first signs of HSV1, that I have a couple of time a year. This morning I have a couple of sores on the mouth.

Is this possible that I transmitted it even if I had no sores yet and that the contact was indirect ? Was the virus already activated ?

I don't know if I should warn him or not...

Thank you very much for your help,

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Hello @Tatayoyo regardless of whether you were shedding or not, it is not feasible for the virus to pass in sufficient quantities through the saliva to infect anyone. Mouth to genitals would have provided a feasible chance of infection - but not saliva casually passing by out of your mouth somehow past possible shedding on the lip. (Where did the cold sores appear?)

There is no point in 'warning' after a sex act, only beforehand regarding the general risk of herpes infection during sex.

Remember that if this partner has HSV-1 already, then there is no practical chance of him being infected again, even in another location.

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Hello @WilsoInAus

Thank you for your clarifications ! The cold sores are on my mouth. He doesnt have HSV1 from what he knows but so many people have it without the virus being active... I've heard something like 80% of the population ? 

Generally speaking now that I know for the past years that you can pass the virus from mouth to genitals I have to admit it's a concern for me. I'm always afraid to have oral sex and to discover the day after that I have a cold sore and to stress about passing it. It's very annoying ! 

Should we not do oral sex when we have mouth HSV1 episode here and there ? I dont think so... usually then time flies and I forget about it. But everytime it's happening again (oral sex close to a sores breakout) I have a hard time stressing a lot about it.

Sorry english is not my first langage !


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Hello @WilsoInAus

Well it's the first time of my life that I got 2 cold sores so closed because I see my last post was one month ago... usually I have one per year never more.

What I was afraid of one month ago happened : I gave direct oral sex this sunday and 24 hours later I got a cold sore and now I'm really freaking out I gave it to him.

Of course I cannot know now and we will see within a few days if there is an outbreak or not....

However, if I'm lucky enough for it not to happen, I really wonder how I can handle that risk in the future ? It looks like my immunity is currently low as I said I never had cold sore so close in my life. I wonder if I should stop oral sex, or ask my doctor for a long term treatment to lower the risk ? 

Should I tell him ? He looks like he never had any cold sores in his life so would not benefit from immunity... but at the same time there is still a high percentage of chance he would be asymptomatic

Thank you very much for your help,




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