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I've been with my partner for just over a year now, he has herpes and told me before we'd even slept together. Anyway he hasn't had an outbreak for the whole time untill about 2 weeks ago. Stupidly we had sex in this outbreak. I have booked a doctor's appointment but I just want to know if this does sound like it before I go. So it feels very burny on one side of my vagina just slightly inside but can see the area, it is red but cant see bumps/sores but I've got shooting pains in groin, I do feel abit rough in myself. It is abit itchy but the main symptom I have ATM is just feels like it's on fire, my underwear is irritating it also.

I have been googling and I know that's the worst thing to do. Also I'm not worried about if I do have it as now obviously I've been with my partner who has it and it's not as bad as the internet makes out, I just want to know if it definitely sounds like o do, I have a feeling it is tbh 


Thanks in advance

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7 hours ago, charb123 said:

Edit from this post, now I have a red dot where the burning/itching is

Hi "charb123"..... it's possible you are having an outbreak.... typically though you will see a cluster of sores that tend to be fluid filled but, it varies to some degree from person to person.  The area of outbreak tends to itch and can be quite sore, particularly to the touch.  Often urinating is painful too if the urine hits the sores.... have you had any pain during urination?    Does your partner have HSV2?  Was he diagnosed via a swab test or an IgG antibody test?  Is he taking any antiviral medication on a daily basis (valacyclovir or famciclovir)?  Taking an antiviral med daily definitely reduces viral shedding occurrences.

You should see if you can get into your doctor as soon as possible and get a PCR swab if there are fluid filled sores.... otherwise, you should discuss when would be best to have an antibody blood test.  In the meantime, you are doing the right thing by limiting your time studying this online... it will only make you unnecessarily anxious.... best of luck with the testing.... please come back to the site with any questions/concern.... take care.

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