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Help !!!! I was just diagnosed on the 15th I have been in a sexual relationship for the last 2 months we had sex on the 7th of March I started experiencing symptoms on the 12th. Before this relationship I was with someone for 6months ending in September of last year . Could I have gotten it last year and just now experiencing symptoms? I’m so lost 

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Hi @EssenceL25 and welcome to the website.

First, if this is herpes, then it has come from the most recent partner. No question. Herpes does not hide before making its presence felt like it may have done for you.

Now what symptoms do you have and what tests have come back positive for you?

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I had flu like symptoms and ulcers on my vagina . They did a culture and I tested positive for hsv2. I asked my partner to get tested he agreed but I’m not sure if he will cause he hasn’t said anything else about it. 

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@EssenceL25 then it is all beyond reasonable doubt that the current partner is the source. A 'perfect' fit in terms of timing, symptoms and swab.

It may be though that the type is not technically known. Culture swabs are very often not typed and just assumed to be HSV-2 if taken from a genital location. If you received oral sex in the days leading into 7 March then it is 50/50 as to whether this is HSV-1 or HSV-2. You could contact your doctor and confirm if the swab was actually typed (which is a second test where fluorescent antibodies for HSV-1 and HSV-2 are added and see which one 'glows').  If that test wasn't done then you do not know type.

If you have oral HSV-1 yourself (cold sores) then this will be HSV-2. Does your partner have oral HSV-1? It is somewhat strange for him not to rush and test - many people have a 'reaction' if they truly do not know their status and have concerns that you infected them etc. (not initially rational of course). This indicates he may know his status - or maybe he just isn't simply the sharpest tool in the shed!?

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I asked if it was hsv 1 or 2 and the doctor said it was Hsv2. I’m not sure i just asked him when he was tested last he said this year I said I think we should go test together and he agreed . I’m going to bring it up again cause I really need to know if he gave this to me I wasn’t sure since it was so close to my previous relationship.

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@EssenceL25 there really isn't a question mark around the source, it's your latest partner. The median time from infection to an outbreak of lesions upon initial infection is 4 days. 

The only thing that isn't certain is the type I suggest.

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I’m going to force him to get tested ! Thanks for your help ! 

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