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Hi all,

I just recently got diagnosed. I am in shock and depression. On one hand, I think "it's not big deal, I'll just take a pill everytime I feel funny".

However, on the other hand, I feel like jumping off a bridge. I hate myself for being so stupid and putting myself at risk for contracting this lifelong illness.

I don't know want to think anymore.

Does it get better? Do symptoms tend to subside as one ages, or should I expect the same symptoms into my 30's, 40's, and 50's, and beyond?

Please help a depressed guy feel somewhat better, is that possible?

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However' date=' on the other hand, I feel like jumping off a bridge. I hate myself for being so stupid and putting myself at risk for contracting this lifelong illness. [/quote']

Why do you think you were being stupid?

"Everyone" who is secually active is at the risk of contracting herpes. Even when you use condom, you can still get it. People think that when they use condom, it's safe. People think that when their partner don't have any symptom of STD, they can't get anything. But... all are false.

Herpes doesn't harm your life at all. It rather enrich your life.

Most people who have herpes for long time have mild symptom. Probably, your symptom will be milder as you get recurrences more... So don't worry.. Soon, herpes will be just a nuisance.

Please hang in now.

Get as many information of herpes as possible. That'll help you to see things in perspective.

Don't worry! <smile>

Best wishes..


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Depressed guy,

I've read and heard many places that the first year is the worst. My year is almost up...... and I'm praying that it's true. I'm actually not taking any more medication right now. I'm trying to have my body fight it for awhile so that it can recognize the virus and try to learn to fight it on it's own. I don't know if there is any medical facts in what I've just said but that's what I am doing. I know if you take antibiotics your body isn't learning to fight off everything.

I've read that it does get better and I too am very hopeful.

Jumping off a bridge. Well, I can say that when I first found out I was on a roller coaster ride of emotions. One minute I would tell myself "I have it, theres nothing I can do about it-just get over it", then the next minute I would be in tears and depressed about having it. I felt like I would never find anyone.

And no, you should NOT feel horrible about yourself because you were infected with it. We all take risks in life and this is just one of the risks we took. We didn't die from it (at the beginning I felt as though I did die). So many other people take stupid risks- drinking and driving, doing drugs, etc. They actually could die from the risks that they take.

I feel good that in my life I haven't taken those risks and this was just one that I didn't realize at the time I was taking. We used a condom...it was one time . ( for like a minute ). Not to hurt any guys feelings on here that only last that long. But the only wish that I had was that it would have been better and longer. :lol:

But it does get better. I've become a much better person....to myself and everyone around me.


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