Very scared, couple questions before appointment

[Guest Anonymous]

Thanks for looking, Ill try and make this concise:

My situation:

-25 y/o male. Once infected with Chlamydia and treated (age 23). No other STD/STI history. Uncircumsized.

-Recently had sex (one week ago) with an infected (genital herpes) female.

-No outbreak present (on her word).

-Condom used.

-No oral.

-Self proclaimed Hypochondriac.

My symptoms:

-Slight pressure in abdomin. Feels similar to what I felt when I had Chlamydia. It can be ignored until I have time to think about it late at night and 'notice' it. When focused on, it feels like I have to urinate. Not a 'need to go now' type of feeling, but more of a nagging feeling. Seems to be worse at night and basically non-existant during the day.

-Possible clear discharge. I say 'possible' because I can get a small amount of fluid to come out of my urethra by squeezing, yet there is no discharge that exits freely on its own at this point.

-Chaffed area effecting the frenulum and the lower portion of the urethra opening. Could be from sex/masturbation friction or alergic reaction to spermicide laced condom. Slightly red, but that may be from poking at it. Occassionally this area will experience a 'tinge' of pain - lasts half a second and isnt anything to write home about.

-Muscle soreness in 'lower/inside' portion of butt. Could be due to 'athletic' intercourse and unrelated to possible infection. Muscle soreness in neck - could be due to sleeping 'funny.' Both of these sorenesses have happened before and in this case, only lasted that day.

-Currently suffering through an episode (that has lasted for 6 months now) of hives that seem to show up when they please. I have yet to identify the alergy and avoid the trigger. Doctor says its normal and Benadryl tablets get rid of the reaction (anti-hystamine). Probably unrelated, but I'd rather list everything.

Herpes symptoms I am NOT having:

-Bumps, blisters, or rashes. Simple, there is no red area, there are no bumps, there are no blisters, and there is no pain, itching, or tingling associated with an outbrake 'to be' either on my penis, scrotum, surrounding area, or mouth.

-Flu like symptoms. No fever, no fatigue other than normal 'work day' fatigue.

-Burning during urination. Slightly uncomfortable - cant put a finger on it - but it doesnt burn in the slightest.

Cliff's Notes:

Basically, I had protected sex (male condom) with an infected girl who was not (on her word) in the course of an outbrake. Developing symptoms similar to those I experienced when I contracted Chlamydia but I am obviously driving myself nuts (4AM here now) with the possibility of having contracted a virus I cannot rid myself of.

I read alot, about shedding, exposure through open woulds, skin to skin, etc.

My question is very straight forward: If she was not experiencing an outbreak and we engaged in protected (male condom) sex, what are the chances I have been infected?

I cant seem to find any %'s, ratios, or probablilities on the web. Im unsure what 'skin to skin' entails. I understand her first outbreak (roughly 18 months ago) to have taken place 'inside' her vagina - nearer to the cervix. With a condom and no outbreak - considering the location of the first outbreak 18 months ago - am I at a 'serious' risk or an I needlessly worrying? What are the chances of her 'shedding' on the outside of her vagina - say where the condom would not have protected against skin/skin?

Again, thanks for your help - if nothing else, writing it down allows me to deal with the possibility a littl easier.

Any similar experiences, recommendations, advice, or 'youre fine, stop worrying' comments would be greatly appreciated.

PS: With no blisters, legions, sores, or bumps, its impossible to get a Herpes test until 12 weeks have passed and it wil show up in blood, correct?

-S

[MC37 Pilot]

Blisters or some kind of rash are the key...

I can tell from reading your post you are DEFINETLY a worrier... (I am too kinda, so I know)

You are just freakin out.

Not to say that you aren't at risk, because everyone is... But I don't think you have any more, or less reason to think you have HSV then any other non-virgin in the world.

I would not associate any of the symptoms you described with HSV in this case.

[Guest Anonymous]

Thanks for your reply MC37.

At this point, I think I may be making up symptoms (aches, ithces, etc) but there is still no evidence of a rash or blisters.

Hopefully its nothing. If I see anything crop up Ill be making an appointment at a clinic.

Keep you posted, thanks again.

-S

[Guest Anonymous]

Also - she has been taking Valtrex for the duration of her infection thus far - the usual dosage of 2 pills (mg unknown) per day and has not had an outbreak since her primary.

I read that this reduces the risk of transmission.

She has had 2 long term relationships (~1 year) since infection and the other guys have not developed problems so I guess thats good news.

Agree/disagree?

[MC37 Pilot]

Yes, I would agree that's positive news.

STILL doesn't mean you aren't at risk, BUT it appears that her body deals with the virus well.

But looking at how much you worry about it... I think unless you are going to pursue a committed relationship with this girl, you might be better of not having sex with her.

If you want to have a relationship with her.. I would talk about it and decide if you can deal with the risk/the worry you will probably experience with that risk being present..

But maybe this experience has made you realize that a lay isn't worth worrying about this much.